"I’ve tried everything, but my partner still won’t change!"

I hear this all the time.

And the reality is, your partner might not change. No matter how hard you try, they might not be able to meet you where you need them.

But if I am being really honest here—nine times out of ten, there is more to this story.

As a child, your well-being DID depend on others changing—specifically your parents. You weren't equipped to meet your own emotional needs back then, so it really was all on them.

Fast forward to today and this childhood experience has left its mark. You've internalized the belief that your happiness hinges on what others do. It's a form of learned helplessness that whispers, "You're powerless to improve your own circumstances."

So, you pour your energy into changing your partner or waiting for them to change. You walk on eggshells to avoid conflict, or repeatedly explain your feelings, hoping this time they'll get it.

(Sounds an awful lot like your childhood, doesn't it?) 👀

All the while, you're overlooking a crucial piece of the puzzle—yourself.

Listen, I get it.

It's so tempting to see yourself as doing things the "right way" and your partner as the problem. But this perspective blinds you to the many ways you can create positive change in your relationship.

Because when one person starts showing up differently, the whole dynamic is forced to shift too.

For example, when was the last time you:

...Communicated your core unmet needs without criticism or blame or over-functioning (aka playing therapist)?

...Paused to regulate your emotions and access clarity before responding in a heated moment?

...Lovingly set a boundary that protected your peace while also considering your partner's experience?

...Validated your own feelings, instead of needing your partner to agree in order to feel like something was true?

If you’re saying “no” or “not often" to any of these, there’s still so much that can be done to shift your relationship for the better.

In fact, many students in How to Love After Childhood Trauma often share that when they do the work—focusing on becoming less reactive and more grounded in their truth—their relationship becomes calmer and more connected.

More specifically:

✅ They stop needing constant validation. They stop trying to convince their partner they’re "right." Now, they trust their own feelings, which means fewer spirals into self-doubt and more conversations about the real things that matter.

✅ Those little triggers that used to spark fights? They lose their punch. With self-soothing skills, conflict feels manageable. Now they can talk things out without everything blowing up.

✅ They learn how to set the right boundaries—a powerful move that shows them they can also meet their own needs, instead of relying solely on their partner. No more quiet resentment building up.

✅ They open up to receiving love in new ways. No longer stuck chasing the hyper-specific love they didn’t get as a child, they now see how their partner does show up—and that deepens the connection while offering a healing experience.

Listen, Beloved, this isn’t about saying your partner shouldn’t have to change or that you should do all the work. Not even close.

But it is about recognizing that the focus you have on wishing they would change may absolutely be leftover from childhood. And when you start seeing yourself as a powerful adult capable of changing the relationship, you begin breaking free from old patterns and building a love that feels secure, even when life gets messy.

That’s exactly what How to Love After Childhood Trauma teaches you to do. And with the doors closing in just two days, now’s your chance to join.

I wish I had space here to share all the feedback from past students who’ve called How to Love “life-changing” and said things like “Morgan makes the hardest stuff feel possible to work through” or “the way Morgan explains it makes me feel so understood, like I am not crazy!”

But I think this one sums it up best: “Morgan saw me like nobody else saw me before, and I felt like I was talking to someone who just gets it—with no fluff or woo woo stuff, just real, practical tools that make sense for me and my specific needs after growing up with an EIP. I feel like I became a relationship master after How to Love.”

This can be your reality too, Beloved.

I can't wait to see you in there!

Morgan

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