The damage emotionally immature parents can’t admit


Welcome to the Fall Healing Series.

If you’re here, you already know what it’s like to grow up with an emotionally immature parent.

To spend years second-guessing yourself.

To wonder if maybe you are the problem.

You’ve analyzed texts, sent screenshots to friends, even dropped them into ChatGPT—just hoping someone would finally say, “You’re not crazy. This is real.”

And maybe, at some point, you tried to tell your parent how their words hurt you. But instead of actually hearing you, they reached for the same tired lines:

“You’re too sensitive.”
“I sacrificed everything for you! This is the thanks I get?”

It's mind boggling, isn't it? a

*YOU* can see how irrational their behaviour is — how absurd, even!

So, how can they not?

Let me tell you something you already know in your bones: you are seeing it correctly.

You're not making anything up.

This kind of trauma traps you in your own mind. Replaying every conversation, analyzing every word, and second-guessing what actually happened.

I call it brain scramble.

It’s what happens when you grow up with someone who lives in a full-time distortion field—where facts bend, meanings twist, and your reality gets rewritten until you can’t trust your own.

Healing from emotionally immature parents means finally understanding what *actually* happened to you, and learning to trust your truth over their distortion.

That’s where we’re starting in the Fall Healing Series this year.

These emails will help you uncover what really happened, heal what still hurts, and move through the grief and frustration that the holidays always bring up.

If this sounds good to you, this next step is very important:

  1. First, please reply, "Yes" back to this email, so I know you're in.
  2. Next, if this email lands in your Spam or Promotions folder, please move it to your 'Primary' inbox so you can keep up with what we will be learning.

Can't wait to heal with you,

Morgan

PS - If there is any particular topic you want to explore, don't hesitate to reply back to me with a couple sentences on your exact stuck point. I may not reply to each email, but I read every one, and they help me tailor what I teach and share over the next 10 weeks.

Morgan Pommells

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