If you have an emotionally immature parent, you've probably come to believe that getting hurt by them is just... inevitable.

That their comments will always wreck you.

That one interaction means days of replaying.

But that’s not true.

You can absolutely be around your parent without it taking over your thoughts or your nervous system.

Not by becoming a stone cold zombie, but by stopping the one thing that gives their behavior so much power over you in the first place.

I want you to be REALLY honest with yourself here...

When you were a kid, you survived by staying completely emotionally open to your parent, didn't you?

You tracked their mood.

You attuned yourself to them.

You made their emotional state your responsibility.

You didn’t choose that. You had no other option.

The problem? You never stopped relating to them that way.

So even now, as an adult, you walk into interactions with them wide open and unprotected in the most important places.

...Open to their perception of you.

...Open to their tone, their disappointment, their judgment.

...Open to treating their reactions as information about who you are.

You’re leading with the most tender, vulnerable, scared parts of yourself—the parts that still want understanding, approval, or safety—and you’re putting those parts directly in front of someone who has shown you, over and over, that they don’t handle them with care.

That's why you still hurt so much.

(I say this with zero blame by the way. People with regular parents get to do this all time, it's not our fault for wanting this).

But with an emotionally immature parent, staying this open comes at a price that we can no longer afford.

Once you stop giving them access to the loving and tender and vulnerable parts of you, their comments and behaviours don't even mean anything anymore.

In fact, you just see them as someone who is hurting, not as as someone who has any type of authority over you or your reactions.

This is how you end the mental replays and spirals. Because this is genuine self protection.

And this is exactly what I cover in the strategies section of Protect Your Peace—practical ways to stop getting hurt by your parent, so their comments don’t keep hitting the same tender places.

So you stop seething with rage every time your parent opens their mouth and actually get through the holidays (or any time you see or hear from them) without ending up emotionally wrecked.

Christmas is almost here, Beloved.

Now is the moment to prepare with Protect Your Peace.​

Stop getting hurt by my parent

This doesn’t have to keep costing you like this.

Hugs,

Morgan

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